{"id":3049,"date":"2023-05-26T23:04:07","date_gmt":"2023-05-26T23:04:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/deardaughterofgod.com\/?p=124"},"modified":"2023-05-26T23:04:07","modified_gmt":"2023-05-26T23:04:07","slug":"blah-blah-blah-speaking-so-your-husband-will-listen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/familiesarising.ca\/fr\/2023\/05\/blah-blah-blah-speaking-so-your-husband-will-listen\/","title":{"rendered":"Blah, Blah, Blah &#8211; Speaking So Your Husband Will Listen"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"https:\/\/deardaughterofgod.files.wordpress.com\/2015\/02\/yelling.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/deardaughterofgod.files.wordpress.com\/2015\/02\/yelling.jpg\" alt=\"yelling\" class=\"wp-image-127\"\/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">He just won&#8217;t listen , no matter how many times I repeat myself! I am beginning to sound like a broken record.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Yes, we know, you&#8217;re always telling him the same things over and over again. You would have thought by now, he would listen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you have been saying things over and over again and your husband isn&#8217;t responding, maybe you&#8217;re going about it the wrong way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you want to get your husband to listen to you, there are several changes you need to make about <em>how<\/em> you speak, and <em>when<\/em> you speak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I wrote a post about <a href=\"http:\/\/http:\/\/strivingnigerianmom.com\/2015\/02\/02\/blocked-ears-only-to-moms-voice\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">getting your child to listen and obey<\/a>, and believe me, I have found out that the strategies for getting kids to listen and getting your husband to listen to you are quite similar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><em>Get His Attention. <\/em>Before you start to speak, make sure you have your husband&#8217;s attention. You may need to ensure you call his attention and also ensure he looks at you before you start to talk. Often times, I speak and ask my hubby to do something for me, and when the time comes to get it done, I ask him for it, and he goes &#8220;When did you ask me? I didn&#8217;t even hear you?&#8221; There you go! Sometimes, we are busy fuming over nothing, the poor man didn&#8217;t even hear you!<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"https:\/\/deardaughterofgod.files.wordpress.com\/2015\/02\/listen.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/deardaughterofgod.files.wordpress.com\/2015\/02\/listen.jpg\" alt=\"listen\" class=\"wp-image-128\"\/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><em>Make sure you&#8217;re not speaking to him in the middle of his favorite show or game. <\/em>If your husband is in the middle of a football match, for instance, or his favorite team is losing, believe me, he won&#8217;t hear a thing. He will definitely nod, and let you know he&#8217;s heard you. But, you can be sure he did that just to get you off his back &#8211; he wasn&#8217;t listening.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"https:\/\/deardaughterofgod.files.wordpress.com\/2015\/02\/football.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/deardaughterofgod.files.wordpress.com\/2015\/02\/football.jpg\" alt=\"football\" class=\"wp-image-126\"\/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><em>Keep your conversation simple. <\/em>If you want to get the best of your husband&#8217;s attention, then go straight to the point. Men don&#8217;t do well with long conversations, and all the extra talk that we love to do as women.<\/li><li><em>Make sure your conversations are not only limited to fault-finding sessions. <\/em>If the only time you speak with your husband is when you want to point out what he&#8217;s not doing right, then, when you do speak, he won&#8217;t be listening. Make out time to have casual conversations with your husband, and appreciate him always. Try to encourage him with your words, let him feel appreciated.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"https:\/\/deardaughterofgod.files.wordpress.com\/2015\/02\/nagging.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/deardaughterofgod.files.wordpress.com\/2015\/02\/nagging.jpg\" alt=\"nagging\" class=\"wp-image-129\"\/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><em>Finally, please, Do Not Nag. <\/em>Yes, he&#8217;s heard you already, you don&#8217;t need to go on and on and on about it. State your point, and move on. If it seems like he&#8217;s forgotten, a gentle reminder will work better than nagging.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><a href=\"https:\/\/deardaughterofgod.files.wordpress.com\/2015\/02\/nag.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/deardaughterofgod.files.wordpress.com\/2015\/02\/nag.jpg\" alt=\"nag\" class=\"wp-image-130\"\/><\/a><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-left wp-block-paragraph\">If you follow these simple guidelines, I am sure you&#8217;ll get better results.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-left wp-block-paragraph\">A man can listen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-left wp-block-paragraph\">Oluseye Ashiru<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-left wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Get Your husband to listen to you&#8221;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":10982,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_coblocks_attr":"","_coblocks_dimensions":"","_coblocks_responsive_height":"","_coblocks_accordion_ie_support":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_hide_featured_image":false,"_jetpack_featured_image_duplicate_dismissed":0,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[148],"tags":[481,482,483],"class_list":["post-3049","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-marriage-matters","tag-men","tag-speaking-to-men","tag-women"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/familiesarising.ca\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3049","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/familiesarising.ca\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/familiesarising.ca\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/familiesarising.ca\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/familiesarising.ca\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3049"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/familiesarising.ca\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3049\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/familiesarising.ca\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3049"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/familiesarising.ca\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3049"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/familiesarising.ca\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3049"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}