Blah, Blah, Blah – Speaking So Your Husband Will Listen

He just won’t listen , no matter how many times I repeat myself! I am beginning to sound like a broken record.

Yes, we know, you’re always telling him the same things over and over again. You would have thought by now, he would listen.

If you have been saying things over and over again and your husband isn’t responding, maybe you’re going about it the wrong way.

If you want to get your husband to listen to you, there are several changes you need to make about how you speak, and when you speak.

I wrote a post about getting your child to listen and obey, and believe me, I have found out that the strategies for getting kids to listen and getting your husband to listen to you are quite similar.

• Get His Attention. Before you start to speak, make sure you have your husband’s attention. You may need to ensure you call his attention and also ensure he looks at you before you start to talk. Often times, I speak and ask my hubby to do something for me, and when the time comes to get it done, I ask him for it, and he goes “When did you ask me? I didn’t even hear you?” There you go! Sometimes, we are busy fuming over nothing, the poor man didn’t even hear you!

• Make sure you’re not speaking to him in the middle of his favorite show or game. If your husband is in the middle of a football match, for instance, or his favorite team is losing, believe me, he won’t hear a thing. He will definitely nod, and let you know he’s heard you. But, you can be sure he did that just to get you off his back – he wasn’t listening.

• Keep your conversation simple. If you want to get the best of your husband’s attention, then go straight to the point. Men don’t do well with long conversations, and all the extra talk that we love to do as women.
• Make sure your conversations are not only limited to fault-finding sessions. If the only time you speak with your husband is when you want to point out what he’s not doing right, then, when you do speak, he won’t be listening. Make out time to have casual conversations with your husband, and appreciate him always. Try to encourage him with your words, let him feel appreciated.

• Finally, please, Do Not Nag. Yes, he’s heard you already, you don’t need to go on and on and on about it. State your point, and move on. If it seems like he’s forgotten, a gentle reminder will work better than nagging.

If you follow these simple guidelines, I am sure you’ll get better results.

A man can listen.

Oluseye Ashiru